Sorting Out Self

How do we come to know who we really are?  And where do we find the answers?  In the era of social media and selfies, our outer masks ~ the “selves” that we show to the world ~ have never been more carefully curated. We know all of the tips for capturing an image of ourselves that casts us in just the right light.  No blemishes. No scars. No red eye. No heartbreak.  We are told to convey confidence at every turn.  But what is beneath the images we create?  And when our focus rests so squarely on the image, how do we find the true human being within ourselves?

So many clients convey to me the pain caused by comparing their lives to the lives of their friends on Facebook or Instagram.  We see the facade that others construct, and even as we know that they have manicured their self-image just as we have, we cannot help but compare their shiny portraits with the full and messy truth of our own lives.  It is an unfair and agonzing game of apples and oranges.

In this climate, it is so easy to believe that Who We Really Are can be defined, can be contained, can be captured in an image, a word, a story.  But what is beneath all of that?  What exists outside of your story of yourself?  And are you willing to find out?  Because Facebook would implode if you could post the Truth of You.

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Rafia Rebeck, MEd, MA, LPC, is trained in the Hakomi Method of Psychotherapy. She offers a warm, sincere, and safe approach for those who seek personal transformation through mindfulness. Please feel welcome to get in touch by contacting  If this blog postcard was meaningful for you, please feel free to share it with others who may benefit.

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