This entry is the second in a two-part series called “Grieving from the Inside Out.”
“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us.” Pema Chodron
Sitting in the pain, all you can remember is pain. All of the neural channels that relate to this particular type of anguish are firing, and even if you know this, know that this is a trick of your mind ~ that right now, with your amygdala all worked up, your memories are temporarily sorted into bins of accessible (the painful ones) and inaccessible (the happy ones) ~ even as you know that this will pass, emotionally the pain is all there is, all there ever has been, and all there ever will be. This distortion of reality is all there is. Time stands still. And as it does, you would be wise to find a loving friend or guide or counselor to remind you that you are ok, that you are loved, and that you will not feel this way forever. Because this is not all there is. Not even close.
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Rafia Rebeck, MEd, MA, LPC, is trained in the Hakomi Method of Psychotherapy. She offers a warm, sincere, and safe approach for those who seek personal transformation through mindfulness. Please feel welcome to get in touch by contacting firstname.lastname@example.org. If this blog postcard was meaningful for you, please feel free to share it with others who may benefit.