It can be really difficult to make changes in our lives. There are so many things that fill our days and demand our attention: from family to friends to work to the many varied mundane activities required to sustain a life (buying groceries . . . paying bills . . . ). In the midst of such swirl, the idea of making a change for our own personal development can seem indulgent if not impossible. Often clients come to me in a state of deep dissatisfaction with their lives, yet when we turn our attention to what changes the client can make in order to move in the direction of happiness, out comes the laundry list of reasons why change is impossible.
Here’s the inconvenient reality: nothing changes if nothing changes. But reality always comes with a bright side, and the good news is that small changes can have an enormous impact. Ever hear of the Butterfly Effect? This is the mathematical theory that small differences in an initial event can have significantly magnified effects on a later outcome (e.g., a butterfly flapping its wings can impact weather conditions just enough to impact the trajectory of a hurricane that emerges weeks later).
Or try this on. Imagine you are standing on top of the Earth, walking in very a specific direction. If you were to simply alter your line of direction by a fraction of an inch, eventually — if you keep walking — you will end up in an entirely different place.
In other words, one small change now can result in big results over time. Whether it’s taking a few moments each day to sit quietly, or keeping a gratitude journal, or learning to notice whenever you are being unkind toward yourself, or riding your bike to work one day a week — the small thing you do today turns out to be not so small after all.
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Rafia Rebeck, MA, NCC, LPCC, is a Nationally Certified Counselor trained in the Hakomi Method of Psychotherapy. She offers a warm, sincere, and safe approach for those who seek personal transformation through mindfulness. Please feel welcome to get in touch by contacting firstname.lastname@example.org. If this postcard was meaningful for you, I invite you to share it with others who may benefit.