A dear client recently lamented how tired she was of hating her body. This is a common experience, certainly among women but increasingly among men as well ~ the rejection of one’s own earthly vessel, followed by the exhaustion that comes from both rejecting the body and rejecting the rejection. Can you feel the endless loop of this? In order to overcome something we don’t like, we all too often shift into disliking ourselves for the disliking. It is like a snake eating its own tail. Popular culture tells us that the best way to support positive body image (or positive self-image of any kind) is to replace our negative self-talk with positive self-talk. Unfortunately, for most of us this maintains an atmosphere of rejection. One voice yells, “I hate myself!” Another retorts, “I love myself!” Each voice grows louder and louder until we find ourselves engaged in an all-out civil war, our bodies&hearts the battlefield, our souls the collateral damage.
In order to truly heal negative self-image, we must instead learn to cultivate an attitude of total acceptance ~ an internal stance that allows each experience to arise and pass through us, a loving witness to All That Is. From this place, nothing is rejected ~ including the part of us that rejects, including the part of us that rejects the rejection. All resistance dissolves. This is self-acceptance. This is unconditional love. This is healing.