Gardens offer a meaningful metaphor. Soil is turned under, rich with compost, ripe with worms. Weeds are pulled. Seeds are planted. Sunshine. Rain.
First sprouts . . . *pause* . . . seedlings . . . *pause* . . . flowers . . . *pause* . . . fruit.
The pause between planting and reaping is important. Elapsed time allows for Things To Happen. Fortunately, Life offers variety. Lettuce greens sprout fast and easy, giving the gardener a sense of (near) immediate gratification. The taste buds are satisfied. But the sweetness of watermelon requires patience, waiting, the juicy non-urgency of Time.
In a culture that loves performance, activity, diligent doing, it is easy to overlook the fallow periods, the essential moments of rest and patience and waiting that make growth and activity possible. While the activity of planting and cultivating are necessary, a seed will only sprout when it is good and ready. This is true for our own growth and development as well. Nothing can be rushed. Everything in its own due time.
What eventually grows, in the garden or in the heart, is a function of which seeds we planted in the past. It is a matter of attention. The seeds we sowed yesterday ~ either consciously (by carefully creating furrows in the soil and gently dropping in seeds) or unconsciously (by ignoring last years weeds and letting them spread) ~ bear their fruit in our present.
The same is true in our hearts, minds, and relationships. Therapy is a way of tending one’s inner garden ~ weeding out old thought patterns, sowing new behaviors, fertilizing with lovingkindness, cultivating with mindfulness and self-care, and harvesting the rewards of our efforts and intentions. The seeds that are planted today ~ the stories we tell about ourselves and the world . . . the choices we make (or don’t make) to meditate, exercise, act with kindness ~ show up as fruits tomorrow . . . *pause* . . . or the next day . . . *pause* . . . or the next day.
Whether the seeds we plant grow into flowers or weeds is a matter of attention and intention.
That they will grow is simply a matter of time.